What happened to you is awful, and I know this sounds callous but it really isn’t… You need to understand that one anecdotal experience does not mean anything statistically. For every situation that you described there are hundreds (probably thousands if we’re talking worldwide) of women going through shit just as bad if not worse.

I know it doesn’t make anything better, but I think trying to understand and believe the truth, rather than the thing that makes me feel a certain way, is valuable.

Either way, I’m sorry that happened to you.

Not-so-fun fact: If you call the domestic abuse hotline as a male who’s experiencing violence at the hands of a woman, they will just hang up on you.

Source: I was in a physically abusive relationship and tried to call the domestic abuse hotline for advice, and they hung up on me.