I’m atheist, and my partner was Muslim when I first knew her.

People say it doesn’t mater - but honestly it really fucking does.

Imagine being in relationship with someone who never really left North Korea, deep down. There’s so much fear, so much fear-driven obedience, and so much fear-driven defense of the indefensible.

I never really understood the concept of freedom of conscience until I was arguing with one of her friends about Amina Lawal, the Nigerian woman sentenced to death by stoning for adultery - with her sentence delayed until her baby was weaned. Despite being really very progressive at heart, my partner ended up arguing in favour of it - and then later on was seriously pissed off at me for making her defend that.

She ended up deconverting several years later (certainly not at my behest), and things got immeasurably better from then on.

But that’s not a possibility I’d recommend banking on. My honest advice is just don’t go there, it’s far more stressful than you think it is.

Brilliant, thank you, I can’t draw for shit

You don’t actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner’s shoulders.

Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.

Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn’t die, you don’t get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.

I had this book when I was a kid.

Yes I’m old.

call the police?

I don’t drive, but as a pedestrian:

USE YOUR GODDAMN TURN SIGNAL

So when is the rest of the world putting sanctions on El Salvador?

Inglourious Basterds is pretty good

… just don’t use instagram?

I never have, and I don’t feel like I’m missing out

May I suggest that you don’t get a job in IT?

Probably about 5-10 minutes most of the time.

Your brain chatters to itself all the time, so if you stfu with the inner monologue and instead just try to eavesdrop on what’s going on in the background, that leads pretty much directly into a dream state.