Basically title, I participated in an interesting exchange over the past day or so, and it made me wonder what some of the more useful resources are for men to learn about their bodies, hormones, brains, emotions, support networks, etc.
So I’m interested in websites, forums, video series, books, whatever. Links would be great if you’ve got them.
(Disclaimer: I am not male myself, which is why I’ve no idea, and am curious, but if this gains traction, I’d also just like to have this post be a resource. It’s good to periodically take stock of what’s out there.)
any sex determined grouping is going to have a ton of biases that are apt to become self-fufilling prophecies.
that’s the rub. but ‘for men’ is ‘negative’ whereas ‘for women’ is positive, due to our current western biases.
plenty of women only groups are just as fucked up and toxic as the ‘manosphere’. it’s just generally not seen as a social threat the way ‘men only’ thinking is.
like incels are bad and evil, but women incels are not.
That has a lot to do with the perception of how those dynamics visibly play out. Men who group up and reinforce toxic ideation will tend to generate visible violence. Women who do so tend not to become visibly violent. (Visible here meaning at the broad societal/media level)
there are have been violent male incels and female incels.
but only one of those gets media play, due to cultural sex biases.
just like female pedophiles get a pass and male pedophiles are witch-hunted. nobody calls for the tortue and wrap of women pedophiles, weird right?
There is a difference of scale and type. The male incel community tends to produce outwardly focused violence, which sometimes hits at a larger scale, sometimes seemingly completely indiscriminately, or tying into other ideologies of hate. Femcel communities tend to produce smaller, more focused violence. They don’t produce mass shootings/stabbings in anywhere near the same amounts.
As for the pedophile double-standard, I suspect that has to do with a visibility bias rooted in most of the people espousing those views being violent adult men with traditional understandings of gender.