• Malyca@lemmy.zip
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    10 days ago

    I can help since I used to be fat! There are a lot of misogynists out there and they don’t make the effort to hide it around women they don’t want to fuck. Either we’re invisible or we’re the punching bag.

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      8 days ago

      Im a dude, but I lost weight in college and panicked when a couple girls in my friend group were suddenly all touchy and treating me like the dudes they were in to. It wasn’t sudden, but them all noticing I lost weight did happen all at once with one person noticing it. I panic gained weight, just started munching everyday like I used to, I still don’t know why. Barely starting to lose weight again years later. Maybe I was scared that every look based validation thing I was told was bs and personality is what really mattered wasn’t actually true for most people. I’m not gonna lie and say I pick purely personality > looks, it’s definitely looks first with personality being the final decider so It’s not like I was upset with them or anything. Just freaked me out experiencing it firsthand.

      Sometimes I wish I could just go away somewhere for a year to not be perceived while I lose weight and get used to it.

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        8 days ago

        If someone tells me I lost weight and I feel they are treating me better than before, I’m binge eating the next week

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            8 days ago

            The question has nothing to do with relationships. The commenter you replied to said nothing about relationships either.

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              8 days ago

              What happens when a person isn’t ignored? They developed a relationship FFS, and nobody is entitled to the attention of anyone else, especially just because you’re a woman.

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                8 days ago

                You only ignore women or get into relationships with them? Nothing in between those two statuses, hm?