I’m 20F, he’s 25M. We met in January and have been dating since last month. He’s already met my parents - they love him, and he hangs out at our house all the time. Literally no one has any issues with him, he’s super welcome here. I invited him to sleep over for a few days this week just for fun, but he said he’s not comfortable with it - apparently it feels too “intimate” for him? Like, he’s got this thing about doing private stuff with other people around. I just want him to relax a bit. We’re all adults here, and everyone knows people have private lives. How can I help him feel more okay with it?
You don’t. I feel for him. He just needs time and you have to understand some people need their privacy and there is no amount of time spent together that can change that. I’m one of those people. I’d be equally tense with a friend’s family or my in laws if I had them, no matter how much I like them, no matter how well we get along.
Edit: that being said, it’s possible he’ll loosen up as you say but there is also a chance the more pressure you put on him, the more you insist on welcoming him, will backfire.
Just take it easy.
I don’t know where the 4 weeks and 30 days comes from since now it is June and they met in January . The rest are all true.
It comes from OP: “We met in January and have been dating since last month.” (Emphasis mine.)
I see. Op is in LaLa land.
You replied to the wrong comment I believe