• ubergeek@lemmy.today
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    2 days ago

    Im just gonna give you ine example.

    I got to the gym, because it improves my health and abilities, allowing me to do more and do it longer. Because I like experiencing life, so it allows me to experience more.

    You do it to get noticed. Why?

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      2 days ago

      Why not?

      I increase weight and duration to be able to do more or go longer than than other people which brings feelings of accomplishment. It also brings all the benefits you describe. You don’t HAVE to compete, but that doesn’t mean that people who do compete are just victims of the patriarchy, that’s an absurd take.

      It’s almost like we can all do things for different reasons and you don’t have a monopoly on why people should do a thing.

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        You don’t HAVE to compete, but that doesn’t mean that people who do compete are just victims of the patriarchy, that’s an absurd take

        People who do compete without a set goal (e.g. I win this cup, get the prize money and go do X that I want to do) are victims of bullshit. Was it patriarchy that cooked some particular bullshit up or not is not really the biggest question

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          23 hours ago

          People who do compete without a set goal (e.g. I win this cup, get the prize money and go do X that I want to do) are victims of bullshit.

          That is a wild take.

          To borrow from Daniel Pink’s book “Drive” which focuses on motivation theory, external motivators like money or prizes take you nowhere near as far as internal motivators. You are more likely to succeed generally and reach higher levels of performance if your motivation is intrinsic because you give that motivation to yourself and it is self-amplifying. Of course, his bent is more business-meets-academia, but I would struggle to see a world where it doesn’t also apply here. Would you just up and start a new hobby because you won the local competition?

          It seems to me that by your logic you go take a karate class so you can get a black belt and then quit? Where’s the satisfaction in that? I don’t think that’s a problem of being a “victim of bullshit”, it’s about the pursuit of excellence for its own sake.

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                2 hours ago

                Are you confused or just dumb?

                It’s nicer to be desirable by popular standards than not. That’s not the patriarchy, that’s comparative evaluation for mate selection

                One, you are trying to substitute whole with a part of it (guess what, not for all people it is nicer). Second, that standpoint may not have arisen out of patriarchy alone, but it is bullshit nonetheless. Have a nice day, go get them tiger

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        2 days ago

        You feel the need to compete for attention, because you have been told winning a competition increases your “value”…

        Why do you think or feel that competing increases your value, somehow?

        You feel its all just “mate selection” and Im telling that is a facet of the patriarchy…

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          I’m telling you I like to compete and by every metric I’m probably both healthier and more capable than you as a result. I’m glad you’re working on it, but the difference between us is not “patriarchy” no matter how you shoehorn it, it is more likely not being in good shape and trying to catch up. I like attention as a motivator sure, but success and improvement are their own rewards. People can just be just more motivated than you. Bodybuilding and powerlifting are both things people enjoy for their own sake.

          Society isn’t the thing keeping you down, it’s the law of averages. Most people suck. At everything. All the time. Welcome.

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            17 hours ago

            Ok. Keep fighting for perceived value.

            Some day, you’ll learn to love yourself, for no reason than just to love yourself.

            Btw, I just finished recovering a dump truck with a come along today, and chopped about 3 weeks worth of wood. Ill do similar tomorrow.

            Im betting your fitness training for attention has you in better shape than I.

            Maybe someday you’ll wake up. Until then? Cheers!

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              22 hours ago

              The moment one party resorted to sealioning, the argument was over. 🤷

              Or maybe that’s also the Occam’s razor of patriarchy.