We know about how you’ll never forgive a murderer, never forgive a pedophile, never forgive a child molester .etc
I want to know from anyone, what else they find pretty unforgivable.
For me, it’s when you dox me or someone else. I’m from the old ancient internet days as it was developing and doxxing is something you just don’t do. In some aspects, doxxing is useful for revealing extremely problematic users like online pedophiles. But a lot of times, doxxing is just an extreme dirty move to pull on anyone when nobody wants their online personas tied to their real lives. Especially in an age where privacy is white hot.
Someone actually did dox me on their Facebook and I already disliked them to begin with, but they went into the “I hate this fucking person” part with me when I discovered that they doxxed me. And no matter if there’s any chance at all to attempt to reconcile any difference, they’ve crossed that line, I don’t trust them and again, I hate the living shit out of them for it.
Petty reason: They spoiled something I wanted to watch/read/play knowing full well my hatred of spoilers. Had this happen: I was actively in the process of playing through the Mass Effect series and a person gave me a massive spoiler. I’ve cut that person off and never wish to speak to them. They could not apologize and receive forgiveness if they tried, they might as well move on with their lives.
Non-personal reason: I would be hard if not impossible for me to forgive someone for having been an eligible voter in the US 2024 elections and having not voted for Harris.
There are many terrible things I’ve experienced and awful things I myself have done, but funnily enough I can forgive others and myself for them pretty easily. I think I usually can’t forgive someone if they stubbornly take the stance that they know what is best for me in said actions or if they were sadistic enjoyment, petulance, or hatred. But actions taken in the moment of heightened emotion, desire, desperation, I tend to be very forgiving about if they ask for forgiveness, even if the acts themselves are often considered pretty extreme by most people.
narcissistic abuse. it gets underrated a lot, but when youre parent is a pathologic narcisisst, it really messes with your brain for the rest of your life.
SA my daughter. I don’t even want male friends anymore after my last good friend got my 16 year old drunk off 10 shots of vodka in an hour and then carried her to his house to rape. I just don’t trust guys anymore.
I should add that my mother, wife, and other daughters have all been SA. Everyone women I have ever had that privilege of talking to about this topic has been SA as well.
jesus fucking christ. i cant even begin to comprehend what you and your daughter have been going through. i hope this guy gets what he deserves.
He left town thankfully. He got charged with giving alcohol to a minor since they had him on camera buying it. He got 6 months and was let off with time served. The prosecutor declined to press rape charges even though he admitted to it on the phone with a detective.
I think a lot of it has to do with our drinking culture. It has long been okay to get women drunk to sleep with them or purposely go out to the bar to take a intoxicated woman home. If alcohol is involved they just don’t want to deal with it.
Sorry but, SA?
SA means Sexual Assault
SA means sexual assault
Almost related but I find it unforgivable to abuse animals. Especially animals that rely on you and trust you, like pets.
your vegan?
Nah but I guess I should be
Their vegan
Every fossil fuel executive and lobbyist is irredeemably evil in my eyes. They are responsible for countless lives that have or will be unnaturally shortened and/or worsened because of their actions.
Lying is a pretty big one. I trust people easily, but if you break that trust you won’t get it back.
I’m not even talking about lying to me necessarily. I heard someone bragging about how they lied about stomach issues at a festival to get a tent spot near the toilets.
So you’re letting me know that lying is a tool you deploy to get what you want? Good to know.
Purposely hurting a pet (either their own or someone else’s).
I’d say any animal tbh, but then I know I am a hypocrite because I partake in the meat eating industry.
Someone talked shit about me in their Instagram posts once during one of the most difficult times in my life (unrelated to their BS). It was kind of indirect, but it was clear who they were talking about and they held up an object I had given them during their video and talked shit about it too. I know that kind of thing is common nowadays, but I don’t play that game. If you have a problem with me, you don’t need to slam me online behind my back… just talk to me.
I still see this person semi-regularly, but I just ignore them because I’m not interested in putting in the effort to fix our friendship when they weren’t. This post is looking for “unforgivable” situations. I could maybe forgive this person if they apologized and explained themselves, but I won’t ever make that move myself because I didn’t do shit to deserve it.
One that’s accepted by society at large - coercing someone into having sex.
I did it myself when I was younger, and I can’t forgive myself.
Being unkind to those you deem to be in lesser stations in life.
I would forgive a murderer before I’d forgive a scammer.
Really? I’d rather my mom get scammed than murdered, but that’s just me
There’s sometimes justified murder. Not sure I can think of a justified scam.
Scamming racists by making them think they’re donating to a skin head fund in order to donate the proceeds to a charity that helps minorities from poor areas?
I can now think of one justified scam
Scamming MAGA to be able to pay for doctor school to then help cure the poor?
It really depends. Is the murderer truely sorry for what was done, or just that they got caught? Same for the scammer. Except scammers can fuck up more peoples’ lives before getting caught.
Make up lies about them. I’ve been a terrible person on occasion, so if you’re going to criticise me, please make it something real!!
Also, pit people against each other for fun.
Yeah basically I’ve known psychos.
Someone actually did dox me on their Facebook and I already disliked them to begin with, but they went into the “I hate this fucking person” part with me when I discovered that they doxxed me. And no matter if there’s any chance at all to attempt to reconcile any difference, they’ve crossed that line, I don’t trust them and again, I hate the living shit out of them for it.
Doxxing is also an unforgivable for me. Also in a lot of cases e.g twitter arguments or against public figures, it’s akin to attempted murder.
Doxxing, raping kids, drugging people.
I think i met a pure evil once: This guy rapes and has groomed a 16 year old that he constantly drugs. The 16 year old is now fully with stockholm syndrom. And is blackmailing me to not go to the police with messages of him admiting to these acts.
Blackmailing how? (If you can say in general without doxxing yourself)
Blackmailing is a crime, and it’s really wicked. Most people don’t follow through on their threats in general, but drug addicts aren’t particularly reliable or stable so I’ll not guarantee anything.
Can you consult with police first without making a report? They may not be able to do anything regardless if the victim doesn’t want to come forward, so a consultation can help you decide what to do. So if they aren’t able to do anything right now perhaps they can take the evidence and save it for if/when the victim wants to press charges themselves? That way they won’t know you did anything until they are okay with it themselves.
So the manipulator as faar as i know is around 30s. Also a nazi, nazi memerobilia, his last message with the blackmailing was something like him not beliefing in the non white zionist jew world lies. He’s got my adress because i gave it to his victim one when the victim seemed to have come to his senses and broke out of the abuser for a few days. I offered him refuge. Victim though went back to his abuser against my best advice. He also seems to have chats where it seems like i am sending nudes and asking for nudes of this minor (in reality the picture i send was a drawing done of me that didnt show my genitals nore my ass for i censored them).
I know blackmailing is a crime.
I looked into reporting it anonymously but to no avail. To that also comes that messages as evidence arent that good nore can they be submitted as such without a judges ruling, from what i read.
Then there is also the matter that while yes i can tell on hand of writing styles which messages got send my the abuser and which were the victim (yes the abuser seemed to have taken over the victims phone and texted stuff like “please dont report this. We all made mistakes. I dont want you to report it anymore”). And ofc that the evidence of him admiting it are screenshots of messages the victim exchanged with his abuser. And if a village police station (i have the abusers adress from the victim) would actually do something about it or just wave it off, is also complete other matter. The abuser is also half across the country from me and so would be the police. Due to germanys states’ police all being indipendent of each other that is such a hassle for me i can expect that is why i would have wanted to do it anonymously.
Then ofc like you said this whole thing with the victim coming forward or how that goes. Ugh.
Can you consult with police first without making a report?
Since its from another state idk how that goes and how it would be handled.
They may not be able to do anything regardless if the victim doesn’t want to come forward, so a consultation can help you decide what to do.
Due to all the things i have mentioned and honestly me not wanting more on my plate that i already have due to life being life and me seemingly having wished apon a monkey paw with “i just want a peaceful quiet year” i dont think i could handle also managing this whole police investigation side mission.
So if they aren’t able to do anything right now perhaps they can take the evidence and save it for if/when the victim wants to press charges themselves? That way they won’t know you did anything until they are okay with it themselves.
Like i said my evidence is only text messages which next to the legal hurdles, i doubt are good evidence. I think the most the police would do if i said “hey this person living there, i suspect of cr, drug trafficing and trading, drugging, handling drugs to a minor and also grooming the minor” is just have a knock at the abusers place or a mock investigation. :(
Doxxing’s pretty fucked. the qualities in a person that lead them to do that are canaries for some chronic issues, I think. Lolcowism, in general is like that
The worst part is, is that doxxing in of itself isn’t illegal, not in the US anyways. But I feel it is also a can of its own worms because, if someone does make doxxing illegal, that would give online pedophiles some power that we do not need them to have. There would be people taking chances on revealing someone’s identity online who are doing predatory acts.
But I understand in a way, why doxxing isn’t illegal because it has to be based on intent.
I count trying to connect someone’s alts together as doxing, since it violates the right to anonymity. If someone’s made the choice to leave their name behind and establish a new identity, I say give them a chance. Let them be forgiven, don’t tie them to their past.
But I don’t think it’s unforgivable. If I did, I’d be a huge hypocrite. I think everything can be forgiven if there’s a commitment to do better.
(I do think exposing someone for sockpuppeting is acceptable, but that’s a special case)
